KHC Devotional

Saturday, April 13

How to know if a man is just deceiving you and will not eventually marry you

There are a lot of people in relationships who are promising marriage and all of heaven and earth but are not really in for the long haul. They just want to get something out or solve a temporary problem. 

Here are some of the tell tale signs

   1.      He will not introduce you to any authority figures like parents, pastors etc. He would keep the relationship secret. This is because when he finally let you down, not too many people will know about it. It is all planned out from the beginning.

   2.      He will not fix a particular date for marriage. He would be evasive about a specific date or might go ahead and fix a date if he knows
that would make you happy. But as soon as the date approaches, there would be one excuse or the other for postponement.

   3.      He does not like you fiddling with his phones or messages. His phones are always secured and on passwords. He does not want you to accidentally discover all the contacts. You will usually see strange names on his contact phone.

4.      Whenever he comes to see you, it is for the purpose of a sexual gratification. He does not really like verbal communication since that would lead to planning for marriage and the future. He will usually tell you he is too tired to talk, but not too tired for sex.

5.      There will be no meaningful conversations or plans towards your future together. He avoids talking about the future like a plague.

6.      If he ever buys you a gift, it is in exchange for something else, usually sex. Nothing goes for nothing. There is no genuine gift. Each gift has its purpose, to numb you the more to his antics and to make you cooperate with his sexual escapades.

7.      He tells you he has other girlfriends, but you are top on the list. He knows you are suspecting him, so he tells you that girls are always flocking around him, but he doesn't really like them, except you. This is usually a tactic to make you prize him the more.

8.    Depending on your person, he will deceive, evade or get angry at you when the issue of commitments comes up. If he knows you are the weak type, he shouts you down. If he knows you are the logical type, he will lie to you and blind you with gifts. If he knows you are the needy type, he doesn't even care when you are concerned, he knows you always need him.

9.      He knows how to play on your emotions, and he enjoys doing it. He is usually very manipulative and adept with toying with your emotions. He is the perfect puppet master with all the strings on his fingers.

10.  He is always suspicious of you, because his own unfaithfulness will make him think you are doing the same. He doesn't understand faithfulness, he is plagued in his mind that you are the same.  He does not trust you and he is extremely jealous. He often wants to check your phone without letting you see his.

So what do you do if you find yourself in the above picture? Run to God and call on Jesus. He will help you out.

What about married couples? You feel you have married the wrong man? Well my advise for you is here. Ask God to help you. Pray for him. Divorce is not the option. The consequences are way too far debilitating.

See here what what the scripture says in Message translation.

1Pe 3:1-2 MSG
(1)  The same goes for you wives: Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs. There are husbands who, indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated
(2)  by your life of holy beauty.

I have God’s direction in my every day life

Lord, guide my steps and help me to make the right decisions in Jesus name

Psa 31:3 KJV
For thou art my rock and my fortress; therefore for thy name's sake lead me, and guide me.

Pray to God

1Chron. 24 - 26

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  1. Hmm...So true pastor. Another way to knw is when a guy does not respect you and uses abusive words while talkin to you even in public.He may also be rude to your friends and family and you will find out that you are always making excuses and apologising to them on his behalf.

  2. Oji Chinomso Hope.July 16, 2013 at 4:30 PM

    Ladies we really have to be careful desperation leads to loads of disappointment watch out for tell tale signs ,don't try to reason it out run you are too precious to be toyed with you are a Bundle of DIVINE EXPRESSION A Royalty divinely packaged for the palace


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