There are a few questions you should ask before
saying 'I do.'
Can you see yourself in the picture of the future of your intended spouse?
If you are unsure of his future, don't marry him.
How do you peep into his future? You do that by looking at his vision and passion now. His vision is indicated in his aspirations and his passion is indicated in his present pursuits.
Do you love him or her enough to marry him or her?
How do you know if you love him?
A. Do you respect him or her? His or her body, interest, parents, ideas?
B. Do you give to him or her? Or are you just receiving?
C. How do his family, friends and associates treat you?
D. Is he a representation of 1Cor.13:4-7?
Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut, Doesn't have a swelled head, Doesn't force itself on others, Isn't always "me first,' Doesn't fly off the handle, Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, Doesn't revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. Love never dies. (1Co 13:4-8 MSG)
Are you proud of him or her?
Are you proud of him or her physically?
Are you proud of his cognitive abilities?
Are you proud of his or her spiritual life?
Is it time? Is it the right time?
To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: (Ecc 3:1 KJV)
For everything there is a fixed time, and a time for every business under the sun. (Eccl 3:1 BBE)
There's an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:
(Eccl 3:1 MSG)
Is he or she accountable to any spiritual authority?
Accountability to spiritual authority means your intended spouse understands the place of wisdom and counsel. Accountability reduces his or her chances of dumping you.
Is the feeling mutual?
Does he really want you or he just wants a sex toy?
Does he want you or your body? That he is coming after you or giving you attention does not mean he or she loves you. You set out and went out to buy a chicken. Do you love the chicken? No. It’s going to end up in the pot. Does he love you or he just wants you to end up on his bed? Marriage is like a bird, it takes two wings to fly.
Is God in it?
Is there peace? A home without God is a hostel. Any investment in a relationship not founded on God’s principles is a waste.
Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
(Psa 127:1 KJV)
If GOD doesn't build the house, the builders only build shacks. If GOD doesn't guard the city, the night watchman might as well nap.
(Psa 127:1 MSG)
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will not be misled. I have the Spirit of God. I am led by the Spirit of God to choose rightly.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me to have a discerning heart, to choose rightly and wisely in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Rom 8:14 KJV
(14) For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Think deeply on “Who do I want as a Spouse’
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Psalm 40 - 42
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Hmm...this is a good one. Lord help me..
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